1. The constant BUY MY BOOK.
First of all, most of us have our go-to list of favorite authors that we buy from no matter what. To get added to that list or even to be considered I need to know something more about you than wow, you have a book out. Congrats for you. Yes, publishing is amazing but as authors we know this. We also know how hard it is to get noticed in a sea of cute guys on pretty covers. You have to stand out but more than that readers need to connect with you on a personal level and not just through your blurb. Post funny pictures, post cute pictures, post quotes, post pics of guys kissing. Whatever it is, just fill your facebook wall, twitter, website, etc, with more than just BUY MY BOOK posts.
2. Don't add people to groups
Do you like waking up, coming on facebook, and finding out that you've been added to this group that you have no interest in and have never heard of? No, not really? Well guess what. Neither do readers so stop it.
3. The game requests
If you play games that's great for you. I don't mind when readers send me requests even though I don't do any of the facebook games. When its an author sending me three a day you bet I notice and its not nice.
4. Posting links on other people's walls without being invited to do so
Yes you may want to post the common "hey, great to meet you, by the way I've written a book and here's the link if you want to check it out" but don't. Its rude to advertise yourself on someone else's space. You wouldn't go into a cupcake shop and post a flyer for your chocolate shop down the street so don't advertise yourself on another author's wall.
5. Randomly friending people and not realizing that they're authors
If you have friends in common and want to friend someone, please do so. But realize that they are authors too before you start up a conversation with them about your new book and how hard it is for you to get noticed and how could they please like your new page.
6. Post your advertising links, just not all the time
This goes back to the Buy My Book idea. Post your links once a month at most. Don't keep posting that you have the same author page, the same amazon author page, the same book out, the same website, the same new review, each week. I get it. We all want attention. We all want to be noticed. Spamming your links isn't the way to do it.
7. Don't talk badly about other authors
In the GLBT fiction world, especially in MM romance, its not that big of a pond here people. You may think there are thousands of other authors, and you may be right. But word gets around fast when you bad mouth a fellow author. Talk to your friends but don't ever write a blog post or put something up on your twitter or facebook about how awful that person's book was or how horrible they are as a person.
8. Stop 1 starring everything from that person you hate
You're jealous, they left the publisher, you don't like their cover model because you wanted him first and now you have to do more work to find another- whatever. Stop giving them 1 star reviews, especially when the book doesn't come out for another month. Its petty and we see you doing it. You come across as a child and no one wants to play with bratty children.
9. Find a good way to decline something
You may not want to do something for another author. You may not like them, you may not like their publisher, you may not be interested at all. Find a good way to say it without coming across as being the author who doesn't play well with others because it will come back to bite you when you need a favor from someone else.
10. Don't ever assume anything about another author
You don't know their age, gender, sexuality, or history. Don't assume anything. Go by their bio if you have to address them a certain way and if you find out something different when you meet them in person for the love of everything-- don't be a jerk about it.
11. This indie vs self pub vs traditional publisher BS has got to stop
People choose to go on their publishing path for different reasons. They can also choose to skip around and go different ways. Its not your place to judge someone for being different than you. You aren't superior for going the self pub route and you aren't a sell out for going traditional. Just stop. Its insanity.
12. Re-using sex scenes does not make you clever
Yes, sex is a pretty basic idea but get creative with it or start writing sweet romance because no one wants to buy a new book only to find out that the sex scene is the same one from two books ago in the same series and you've just changed the names around. Its lazy and that's something readers notice.
13. Stop pirating other authors' books
This needs to be said which is sad in itself. Do you like when you lose thousands of dollars to pirates each month? Then why would you do it to someone else? Oh, they're in a big publishing house so they can millions and won't ever notice. Right... no, they're probably not raking in that kind of money. And even if they were, who are you to decide who gets what in this world? Stop pirating.
14. You colored outside the lines!
Seriously? Yes, this is an actual thing. Someone writing MM romance can go write MF romance without having another author's say so. And you don't get to talk badly about them because of it online. Again, you want to whine about how you think they sold out and crossed into the dark side of straight sex? Then do it to your friends. Blow off steam there, we all have to sometimes. But trashing another author for any reason, especially for wanting to branch out and try new genres and ideas is not okay at all.